Mind Reader

 Mind Reader

The counseling session began. Maria nodded, as I asked the question.  When she lifted her face, there was a different expression on her face. Her eyes moved slightly.

I told her, "If this question bothers you, let's move on to a different topic. When you have the mental and emotional preparation, then we will discuss this further."

Now there was a look of surprise on Maria's face.  She asked nervously, "How do you know?

I calmly explained to her, "It doesn't matter right now. Let's go back to our counseling session."

Then, on each question, recognizing Maria's emotions, I kept asking questions.  Maria had started to understand the process now.

 By the end of the session, Maria had calmed down.  She had found the answers to her problems.  I had just helped her in that process.  As she was leaving, Maria went a little further and stopped.

 I asked, "Are there any more challenges?"  She said no, and confidently asked me, "I want to learn, to read next person's mind."

I asked her, "What are you going to do with that?"

 She said, "Nothing special. But I would love to know what is in the minds of others."

 In the same way, the curiosity of many is aroused, to know the minds of others!  In general, to the common man, 'I can recognize the mind!', this is the attraction. They are not aware of, consideration and acceptance of necessary procedures, merits and consequences.

I asked Maria to sit in front of me and sensibly told her, "Recognizing the thoughts and feelings of the person in front of you, can be learned in a short time. But, it takes years to balance own mental and emotional state, after knowing good and not so good opinions of next person or people and then, co-ordinate communication and relationships. You're recovering from a problem right now, so if you understand the thoughts and feelings that are different or not positive about you, from a close relative or friend, how much will you be able to recover yourself?"

She was a little embarrassed.  

I reassured her and said, "My mother used to believe 'Ignorance is bliss!' in our life. Sometimes, if we understand something that is not positive about ourselves, it may cause us to lose our positivity."

If you look at it properly, most of the common people, for some reason, have inherited this art in small quantities.  The other side of the coin, however, is that many of them often make predictions or guesses.  This can be due to overconfidence or a habit of assumption.  Misunderstandings can arise.  Meaning can be ruined.  Important responsibility has to be taken to avoid all this.

Due to my professional work, I have to use these techniques in my training programs, business coaching, personal mentoring and personal counseling sessions.  Because of my constant use of these techniques, by the grace of God, I have mastered it sufficiently. The full credit for this, I give to my profession;  and I am still indebted to the various NLP gurus who taught me these techniques properly.

 In my field, I am known for 'the person who understands the thoughts and feelings of the next person.' 

 

There are three parts to mind;  

 Conscious mind), Subconscious mind and Unconscious mind.

Opinions, beliefs, and certain convinctions, that come from unconscious and subconscious experiences, have an effect on our lives.  This affects small and big decisions in our lives, our temperament, as well as of our communication.  These effects are directional.

 When the person in front of you is speaking in front of you, the person's body language, subtle facial expressions, eye movements, knowingly or unknowingly choice of words and patterns, vocal stress (volume, tone, pitch, pause, etc) help us to know, the intentions, expectations, and basic dispositions of the person in front of you.  If we have previous experience with that person, they are useful for references.  Without these evidences, the claim of mental recognition can be a fallacy.

Also, using all of the above references altogether, is not easy. For that, one has to study it in depth. You have to have, keen curiosity and keen observation.  It takes perseverance to get a natural and easy grip.

In a PRASANNA NLP, I teach that, 'Goal is the means towards outcome'.  Goal is the tool that leads to outcomes.

Outcomes are more important.  Knowing the motives and feelings of the person in front of you, what exactly do you want to achieve? What is your outcome?

 It can be used positively while undergoing training, counseling, personal mentoring, working as a political advisor and in the social sphere.

 Most importantly, sometimes the person in front of you, does not have positive feelings or thoughts about you, in which case you have to have complete control over your own emotions.  Sometimes you have to continue the dialogue without letting the person in front of you know what you have understood. You should be neutral.

In case of extreme need, the person in front has to be informed about knowledge of his intentions and emotions in am innovative manner or the flow of further communication or behavior has to be diverted on that basis.

 Once the intentions and feelings of the person in front are identified, then it becomes easy to reconcile with that person through a specific techniques in PRASANNA NLP.  But then you have to be aware of your conscience.  Your thoughts should be controlled by conscience.

Let's discuss this in detail in the next article!

 Yours always, Prasanna.Bipin_Mayekar

 NLP GOLD MASTER TRAINER

Third in global and first in India, 

National Federation of Neuro Linguistic Programming, USA

Experience of 25 years